Being an “Inbetweenie”

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During my daily podcast listen, I heard a term that was new to me from the LIKEtoKNOW.it influencer radio.  “Inbetweenie”.  Sarah Tripp, of the blog Sassy Red Lipstick, who tags her niche as a body positive fashion blog, referred to an inbetweenie as a fashion blogger who is an in-between size – greater than a size 4 up to a size 12 — not teeny, not full-figured. And I loved the term so much I’ve officially adopted it.  (Thanks, Sarah 😉 )

There was a day that I realized that I wasn’t like my teeny tiny size 2 and 4 girlfriends in high school, and I had the insight at a young age that I needed to learn to be proud of the body that I was given (and learn how to dress it well ;). I go into way more detail on this in my previous post about being referred to as an Amazon woman.  

I am 100% an inbetweenie. I’m just a hair shy of 5’10”.  My weight generally fluctuates within a 15 pound range, and it’s ok. I’m V-shaped, with narrow hips & broad shoulders.  I like to say i’m mismatched – in that I typically wear a size 6-8 on the bottom and nothing smaller than a 12 on top! (So frustrating when trying to buy bathing suits – And so, separates it is!)  And yes, I am sometimes frustrated when some brands only go up to a size Large – that won’t even fit my body! – but that’s what this growing fashion community is about. 

During that time that I was so ashamed that I was bigger than all my teeny friends (at a ripe old 14), I was horrified to even discuss my weigh or my size. This was a growing pain for me to realize that it didn’t matter what the number on the tag said – it matters how it fits and how you feel in it. I have some size 6 bottoms and some size 14 dresses – ultimately it’s of no importance so long as you feel good in it.

Sure, there are things every person dislikes about their body, but my philosophy is that you should try and change it if you can, or learn to work with what you’re given.  Some days that feeling comes easier than others, but the unfair pressure of trying like you need to fit into a mold that you weren’t made to fit into is ridiculous. 

I have to say, I truly admire Sarah’s ability to be incredibly body positive and hope to emanate that same level of appreciation and understanding that beautiful is applicable at every size.

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Girls Night In

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Happy Sunday! I’m 100% refreshed after a little at home pampering session from last night. Do you ever have those weekend days you just need to hibernate at home? Sharing the best routine to relax and rejuvenate for a girls night in (or girl, as it were) pampering products with you below!

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First & foremost – get comfy! It’s tough to pamper yourself if you feel restricted. I love a good PJ set! Mine is sold out, but I linked a few cuties below. Make sure to get some that are also super soft and with a little stretch!

Disclaimer – the Rosé is not linked 😉 but choose your favorite.

I like to start with a quick polish change and am loving this Sally Hansen Insta-Dri. It claims to be dry in 60 seconds, which I Can neither confirm or deny, but I can say that mine was 100% dry within 6-10 minutes. Still a huge accomplishment from regular nail polish! (Be sure to grab the top coat – this will extend the polish for another 3-4 days.)

Post dry polish, I like to have a good relaxing soak in the tub. I was recently gifted this set of aromatherapy bath bombs and let me tell you – they smell amazing! Would be great for gifting…. even to yourself! My favorite is the lavender because that scent is so calming.

Let’s talk face-specific skin care – Post relaxing bath, I exfoliated. Exfoliating helps to slough off the top most layer of dead skin and leaves you with a shiny new layer when you’re done. Honestly, I’ve been through product after product, and one of my favorites is still regular old Baking Soda – that’s right! The stuff from your kitchen! It’s very mild and won’t scratch your skin if you have any sensitivity or acne happening, vs some other kinds that are more like grains of sand and tend to be more rough.

I chose this mud mask after exfoliating called “purifying” to help me proverbially slough off some of my previous week’s stress! The option pictured contains tea tree oil which is also known to have a natural anti-bacterial, which is great if you have any blemishes happening.

Always follow your face washing routine with moisturizer! Why? Because you remove natural oils from your skin when you wash with soap and water. If that moisture is not replaced, your skin will produce more oil, trying to remoisturize — so just cut it off at the pass. You’ll feel better about it and be less prone to break outs. I linked my favorite affordable eye & skin moisturizer for very dry skin (like mine) below.

And lastly, my very favorite part of my girls night in weekend routine involves sleeping in – I don’t know about you but that 5:30 alarm on the weekdays is just a little too early bird for me. Have you ever tried using a sleep mask before? I originally purchased this for a VERY long overseas flight, but it works wonders to help keep that light out when you want to sleep in! I love this sleep mask because of the cute details.

This was my “feel better because you’re staying in on a Saturday night alone” plan – what did I miss?? What would you have included that is important to your self-care routine?

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Why I Quit Shaving

Cover Photo - Why I quit shaving my armpits.

Who hates shaving?! [Insert girl-raising-hand emoji here]. (Arms, legs, downstairs…. you name it!) . A few years ago I quit shaving my pits – seriously. I quit shaving.

OK. I totally quit shaving because I started waxing. Props to any woman who chooses to go au natural, but that wasn’t for this girl. In 2011, prior to a beach vacation with my new beau (who I eventually married!) I got my first bikini wax. Uncomfortable, and expensive – to keep up with anyway.

Honestly, the transition from shaving to waxing has been amazing (and cheaper than a visit to the aesthetician every 2 weeks!) Keep reading to see why.

First of all, I have incredibly sensitive skin…. anyone else? And the reason I began looking for alternatives was because I would get these awful skin irritations. You may be thinking “Well, why didn’t you just change your razor?”… well, I did, and I suppose that could have fixed the problem, but frankly I just wasn’t interested in a new razor every other shave because I’m stubborn…. (AF). Also, shaving just perpetuated the problem that I needed to shave AGAIN the next day. And lastly, ingrown hairs are zero fun – ZERO. So, being the resourceful woman I am, I needed an alternative solution– which leads us here, to waxing.

Forget the days of paper strips. Hard was is great because it’s the only product you will need. Whatever hair you are attempting to remove should probably be at least 1/4 inch long, so that the wax adheres appropriately. You will want to apply baby powder to your skin prior to applying the wax. This helps the wax stick only to the hair and not the skin. Trust me this step is important. Also, it makes the clean up a lot easier.

It’s as simple as heating the wax in your microwave for 3-5 minutes – depending upon the power of your microwave. Tip: I find that the appropriate temperature to apply the wax is when it’s slightly thinner than the texture of honey. The kit also includes a few small wooden applicators, but I prefer something like this instead. After applying the warm wax, allow it to harden for a minute or so, and simply remove, pulling in the opposite direction of hair growth.

Tips on the removal: – Do it quickly! Try to pull the hardened wax strip off in as few attempts as possible, because your skin may bruise if you pull on the same area too many times –remember, this is sensitive skin we’re talking about.

Lastly, finish with some type of oil to re-moisturize the skin since you just traumatized it. When I started waxing, I used the supplies that came in the kit, but quickly realized I needed more than the amount that was included if I was going to keep this up! Something like a coconut oil or a jojoba oil would be safe to apply at home if you run out of the “Post Wax Calming Wipes” that come in the kit.

The best part of all this? No more hair maintenance for 2-3 weeks!

Give it a try– seriously, in the summer or on a beach vacation it’s a game changer!! Let me know your results!

Disclaimer: I DO still shave my legs. Waxing is reserved for the other areas where body hair is less desirable. *wink, wink*

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